That brings me to this year. My son’s birthday is early September so he was actually bumped up a class instead of going to the next class. So problem number one was that he was jumping ahead of any skills he had learned. It was a whole new atmosphere. He was with a new group of kids, a new teacher, a new room and new ways of learning. There were to many NEW things and he did not not do well. This is very common for autistic kids and that is one of his unique characteristics.
The second major issue was that we had accomplished potty training at home and he was doing great! He was wearing underwear at all times at home. When he started Mother’s Day Out a strange thing happened. He forgot everything while he was there. The teacher was just not understanding why he could not do like the other children. She kept telling me to have pull ups on him but I kept standing strong in the fact that he was trained and she needed to pay better attention to his signals. Today she follows me out to the car and says he MUST were pull ups from now on because she is tired of cleaning up his accidents. I was silent and just looked at her. Then she said it was because he just will NOT talk to her. She got in his face and said “see.” As he shut down and turned his precious face away clearly in a panic mode.
I got home and thought about it and realized she did not mean it as bad as I had took it. She is a good woman and a great teacher. She just does not understand the precious personality of my son. He is brilliant and can do things far beyond other children but he lacks those social skills. I am left with a question of how do we educate teachers so that our kids can be safely included in the public schools? I want my son to be able to participate in activities with other children. He does not qualify for special education and that puts him right in the middle where no one understands him.
As moms and dads we have to be the voice for our children. We have to find a way to make others understand. I am still learning this myself. Together we have a much louder voice than alone!